Okay, so I am reading Boundaries with Kids, and my February book is going to be Boundaries. I have a praise today because for the first time in a while, I set a boundary with Joseph. I had planned to stay at the park after we picked up trash for at least another hour because any Mom of two little boys knows that if there is a beautiful day in January to take advantage and let them be outside. Joseph was throwing wood chips at the park and he got told once not to throw them or we would have to leave. He apologized to the little boy he threw them at, but proceeded to pick up another handful and throw them in a different direction. We had to leave the park 😦 I simply told him, I was sorry he had made the decision to throw the wood chips again. He apologized in the car, but it was so freeing to set that simple boundary it amazed me. We are also setting a juice boundary, he and James get 4 ounces of juice a day mixed with water, if they want it in the morning they have to go without the rest of the day. Joseph is learning to get water in the morning then get his juice when he really wants it 🙂 Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend talk about “three ways to influence your kids to develop boundaries: teaching, modeling, and teaching them to internalize…If you “do” boundaries with your kids, they internalize the experiences, remember them, digest them, and make them a part of how they see reality” (44). This book has really opened my eyes to what it means to teach my kids character and reality. It is not easy to digest some of it and I am sure the adult version will be harder to digest, but it will be worth it.
Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend. Boundaries with Kids.